Rude Entitled Student Gets Told Before Taking a Test

Soft Ice Girl gets a Retail Balls Award for putting a rude student in his place:

Good day, fellow RHU-ers!

I am out ouf retail for a while now, yet I had a recent crusty encounter- I work as a tutor for research methods in psychology, for the fourth year now, and I must say that I absolutely adore my job!

If I didn´t have to get up so early for it (8 am class, urgh), I would do it for free.

The class works like this: The students come over, we hand them work sheets and they solve the problems in there. If they have questions, they can ask one of us.

Normally the students are super nice, thankful for the help, and sweet (as they are in the first semester, so they ask cute little newbie-questions), but a few weeks ago, I had my first crusty encounter EVER!

I was sitting on my bench, scanning the class for raised hands, and this stupid fuck snaps his fingers, whistles, and as I look at him in disbelief, he waves at me in this "Italian mafioso" manner- outstretched arm, chin raised, hand does not move, only the fingers do a "come here" motion.

Really, he did all the disrespectful "calling someone" behaviours at once. Do there exist any more? I think there would be only shouting "garcon!!" left to be more of an asshole.

My boss was sitting right next to me and all she did was raise an eyebrow.

I went over there, ready to rumble.

Stupid fuck: Yeah, I don´t know how to solve this problem, can´t find the approach.

Me: Ok, if you have a question, I am happy to help you. You can raise your hand, or call my name, just like the other students do. What you cannot do to call me, is snap your fingers, whistle or gesture like a mafioso.

Stupid fuck: What? Why?

Me: Because I am not a dog.

Stupid fuck: Oh, come on. It´s not such a big deal.

Me: Well, you heard me. If you want help, call one of us in an appropriate manner or noone will react.

With these words, I turned around and went back to bench, where my boss was still sitting. I told her what hat happened and luckily, she approved.

The stupid fuck sat there for a while, stared at his paper, then packed his things and went home. I think that he learned his lesson as last week, he raised his hand when he had a question.

--Soft Ice Girl

 

Comments

[The Last Archimedean]

Well done. You were polite but you stood up for yourself.

Anyone confronted by an ass-half like this one needs to do the exact same thing. Be nice about it but take him down about 10 notches.

[Aunty]

My niece recently whistled to get my attention. I informed her that I am not a dog, told her she would be getting no dessert, and if it ever happened again I'd smash her iPod. I've never felt so angry at the actions of a five year old before; an adult doing it would probably make me see red.

[Pizza Slinger]

I had that happen to me a couple times as a waitress and it made my blood boil. I wish I'd had the guts to do what you did!

[Michael Chandra]

Snapping fingers, whistling and gesturing without just raising a hand and/or verbally asking for help? No, Alvis, treating people like dogs is NOT neutral. Nobody has the right to command another around like that. If you consider treating people in such a way normal, kindly get a shrink, you're a psycho.

[Nick]

Alvis, proper social behavior does require that if you want someone to come to you, that you ask them in the form of a question.

Could you come here for a minute?

This ensures that noone sees you as arrogant, demanding, irrational, or condescending.

That being said, I hope we have concluded this mini lesson on proper social behavior.

[Cell-Circuit Chick (formerly Caper)]

Alvis - Snapping and whistling is RUDE and an unacceptable of getting someone's attention. So doing the "kiss-kiss" noise. The proper way to get a persons attention is to say excuse me - or in a class room setting, to raise your hand.

Anyone who thinks that snapping, whistling or making a noise that sounds like you're calling a dog,is okay - then you must be socially inept.

[MahiMahi]

Gestures such as raising your hand is fine.
Snapping at someone, whistling at them is something you would typically do with a dog. Not a person. It is considered rude. Perhaps in certain cultures it's okay to snap to get someones attention, but it isn't okay in the USA.
Besides, everyone here knows it is rude, Alvis. YOU are the only one saying otherwise.
Furthermore, he's a big boy. OH NO HE GOT EMBARRASSED! It's not as if he going to go home and slit his wrists about it.

[chris]

And my dog responds to a raised hand but not whistling. (She thinks a raised hand means treats.)

I think you're being pretty harsh on Alvis and the original customer. This is a cultural thing: there are most definitely parts of the USA where whistling or beckoning to attract someone's attention is considered the normal way to do things. That may not be *your* part of the US, but a blanket "it isn't okay in the USA" is not correct.

[CheckoutSlave]

It's considered rude in Australia, but seems quite acceptable in German classrooms.

If I'm on a register at work near the cigarette kiosk, people try coughing, banging on it, whistling, demanding to know if there's someone there, trying to get me to help them when I'm already serving someone... some of these can be quite irritating!

[Pagemaster]

I've lived in quite a few states over the past several years, many of which are on the opposite side of the country from the last. No where was it acceptable to call someone over like a dog. The OP was polite in her response to being offended by the students actions, the students insistence in denying that he'd offended someone is frankly unflattering.

Alvis, if anyone made a 'kissy-kissy' sound at me besides my mother I would kindly inform them that someone else would be assisting them. I am not interested in someone treating me like a pet, or acting like I am their girlfriend and can 'call me' with pet names and whistles.

In school we are taught to raise our hand and to say 'excuse me'.

Frankly I'd be incredibly put off and offended by a stranger making 'kissy' sounds at me.

[Fortune Cookie]

Whistling is NOT acceptable in German class rooms -.- Snapping your fingers once MAY be okay in certain situations when the teachers is caught up in work on her desk and you really need some help.

That being said, the one time someone whistled at me to get my attention I was gobsmacked. I stopped dead mid-sentence and later wrote a letter to their boss. I am NOT a pet dog and will not answer to whisltes.

[Tanz]

I can't believe this kid got to University age without anyone teaching him manners... I mean, he asked *why* his actions were offensive?? Who is really that oblivious??

[Soft Ice Girl]

The classroom where the scene took place was a german one- so I, too, deny that it is acceptable here ^^
@Alvis: I don´t think that I embarrassed the guy because I was talking just to him, not very loudly, and don´t think that someone overheard. Plus, he´s not really a kid, but rather about twentyish years old. I am 24, so there is no "talking down to seomeone" age gap.

[Riferous]

Freddy, can we please ban Alvis? He's a pathetic troll.

[Ron]

Alvis are you aware that you are on retailhellunderground.com? Are you aware that this is a forum for "service slaves to rant and laugh." See stories just like this is what this site was made for.

[Ted the 'Flayer]

I'm pretty sure Alvis is here to troll...

[Book Wench]

Breezing right on past the troll, it seems that in my little corner of the US it's mostly the older customers who try to get my attention with snaps, whistles, etc. They're also the ones who seem to have the hardest time understanding that I cannot and should not be slapped, smacked, pulled or shoved. (Younger customers like to pretend that they can neither see nor hear me.) Is this a pattern for anyone else, or is my town just weird?

[c]

Let's breeze past the troll and his "fan"...
It is rude to snap fingers and whistle to get someone's attention.

[MJay]

It happened to me once when I worked in the 7. I was working alone making coffee on a Sunday morning. This asshole comes to the lottery counter and before I could say that I will be with him in a moment, he whistled two sharp, loud whistles.
I went to the counter and asked he had whistled at me. His repsonse was yes, I need lottery. My response, Well, go somewher else because you are banned from here.
His repsonse, shock look and he sputtered that I could not ban him. I told him that since I was only working on Sundays at this point, I could do whatever I wanted and there was no way in hell I was going to put up with someone treating me like a dog.
He looked a little stunned as I walked back to the coffee area. He left after a moment slamming the door. I never saw him again.
So, for Alvin and other asshole: whistling, snapping your finges and making kissy sounds are so fucking rude that it boggles the mind you would think otherwise.

[RockerChic]

I have a few students try this on a regular basis in class (they're 12 so they are still figuring out life). They try that and they get a "You will not get what you want until you address me properly" and I go back to what I was doing.

[LabRat]

Thank you for that. Nothing grinds my gears like stupid students. I am also a tutor and lord help any student who fucking whistles, snaps, or waves at me in an animal fashion. I'm doing them a favor by being available for help so they can drop the whole subservience thing. Also props to your boss for backing you. My lazy ass boss at tutoring would have said to get over it.