Karebear's Creepy Coworker Stalker Released From Jail

Hey it's Karebear.

I have a bit of bad news. And perhaps a few bit of good news.

Bad news first:

Earlier today one of my old coworkers sent me a text saying that Pet is out of jail. I guess he went into our old workplace and asked about returning to work, until he was kicked out of the store by the new store manager there.

I called my lawyer, and he was able to confirm it. However, I was able to set up a restraining order a bit ago when it was all happening, so he isn't allowed near me. Chances of him following that though? Probably slim. Chances of him finding me? Slimmer. He might go back to jail or prison after the final court date, but...to be honest, I am not holding my breath about it. I have pretty rotten luck, and if I held my breath about it, I'd just be turning blue. 

I said before I have moved, and I have all my mail set up to a PO box. Only people who have my address is my lawyer, Tank and our work records, and my parents. But if they have to mail something to me they either use the PO box or just call me up and give it to me. I don't have a house phone, just my cellphone with a new number. Only a select few people have it, and they'll guard it to their death. 

I am still using the same daycare lady, but she has actually moved out of her house to an actual little school type deal. She had been planning on doing it for a while and finally got around to it. Not sure if it's because of me or just because she finally had the money to afford all of it. She has hired a few more girls and one pretty tough looking guy (who is really just  a giant teddy bear, all the kids love him.) 

Only thing Pet might figure out is my car. I'm not a car person, couldn't tell you makes and models (expect for what my car and past cars are) but it's pretty popular looking car. So even if he saw "my car" it might not be "my car." Besides, living in the same area for the past 20 years, I know all the back roads, roads people normally get horribly lost on. And pass both police stations in my town while using them to go to work. 

(Trying really hard to look positive on this, telling myself it'll be hard for him to find me.) 

Good news time!: 

1. My kid is all registered for school for the first time. Yay! He's excited. Hoping to meet his teacher in the next week or so. 

2. While I am still working with Tank at the moment, I am trying to find a different job. I like working with Tank, it's an easy job, but it's sooo boring sometimes. There are days when we don't have any client interaction at all, so I am just sitting there playing Facebook games. (After all my work is done, which on a slow days takes me about 2 hours if that...gotta occupy my other 6 hours somehow.) Plus, there's no benefits offered, and let's face it, I would like to have some decent eyeball and tooth insurance. 

So I applied for a job in an assisted living center. First interview went great, and I got called back for a second interview for next week. The guy who would be my boss is really cool, pretty laid back. Plus they would work with my schedule and give me hours that would work around day care and school. I would just have to work 4 days a week and 1 weekend day. Plus full benefits and sick/personal time. I'd have to deal with some cranky seniors (so I was told during the interview), but that's okay. I love talking to the older generations, I find them so....wise. So I am really hoping I get the job. It'll be a longer drive to get to work and back, but the pay is more, and would probably even get raises. So wish me luck on that! (Oh, did I mention it's gated too, so no way Pet could get in there unless he could say so-and-so is my grandparent, and said grandparent can confirm it!)

3. Even if I don't get the job there, at least the other girl working with me at Tank's place finally approves of me. She told Tank he needs to snatch me up quickly before she decides to turn lesbian and take me for herself cause I am a "doll." While it was said in a joke, still made me feel good about myself. :-)

That's all for now. Thanks for listening to my ramblings. Trying to calm myself down about the whole Pet not in jail thing anymore. 

Hope ya'll have better day than me!

--<3 Karebear

Comments

[Kiddo]

Awesome on the new job Karebear! Here's hoping things keep looking up for you!

[Damn Yankee]

Make sure your school knows that your information isn't to be given out under any circumstances. That includes extracurricular activities too. I'm glad you're handling things this well! You've got the full force of RHU behind you, babe!

[Redheadactress]

You inspire me!

[Skittles]

Definitely start carrying mace if you aren't already, and if your state allows it you might even consider getting a concealed carry permit. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of...odd I can't remember the rest of the saying. I also wanted to point out that taking back roads not often traveled sounds illogical to me. As if he were to find out he could try something out of the view of the general public, you might be better off taking the busiest roads, as then there are people around to help or at least call the police if you are not in the position to do so yourself.

[Bored at the Bookstore]

I'm sorry the creep is on the loose again... But you do sound as if you've done whatever you can to protect yourself and the children (aside from going into the Witness Protection Program), and that's great! The new, gated job sounds great, too.

As for pepper spray or mace, there is a perfectly legal-to-carry alternative - hair spray or spray perfume/cologne - the cheaper the better. _Really_ stings when sprayed in the face! Get a small canister and carry it with you at all times. It won't drop him in his tracks, but it will slow down and distract him while you get to help...

Best of luck!

[The Last Archimedean]

That is good news about the job. I hope you get it.

As for scumbag, you do have a restraining order, and if he does get close to you, all you have to do is disable him long enough to get to the nearest police station. BAM, he's back in jail for violating a restraining order, and you can push for something like a monitoring device to be put on him if they let him out again. One of those ankle bracelets.

[Evie]

Be safe, be well, watch your baby like a hawk, and best of luck. :)

[Hellbound Alleee]

It would be an awesome thing to do to get self-defense training or some kind of martial arts. Even if you never have to use it, which is my hope for you. I was attacked myself, and I had just read a self defense book, and actually used something from it--and it worked. It was a demonstration on how to get out of a hold. Now I can say I survived the scariest thing I could ever imagine and I know you most likely would, too. Be safe.

[Lamer]

You've done a lot, I'm proud of you. IF, God forbid, he finds you, remember to yell fire, people are more likely to respond, sad as it is.

[Lita]

@Skittles - a pound of cure. :)

Good luck, Karebear! I really hope you get that job and that Pet gets back what he's given to you tenfold!

[Queer Geek]

Good luck with the job prospects and be safe.

I'm just pissed that the system let the little bastard out! This is the reason why the justice system fails us!

[BookAce]

Good luck with the job hunt Karebear! I'm glad to hear that even in light of the horrible news that he's free, you sound like you're in as safe a place as you can be. I hope that scumbag never comes near you or your kid again. (I do think maybe taking populated roads rather than back roads might be a better idea though. It's harder to pick out a car on a busy road and the more people around, the better.)

[Sales Agent Guy]

Wait, he's FREE from jail?! Just how the fuck did he mention to get free with all those violations on his record? I do hope he doesn't try to get near you again, because if he does, I'm gonna turn him inside out!

[Karebear]

So far I haven't seen Pet. Think I wrote this on Friday...:/ heck I dunno my brain is going. I've been riding to work with Tank for the last week. Only time I really drove my own car was for going to the interview and taking my kid to the doctor's today.

Tank has been trying to teach my some self defense moves. At one point he tried to sneak up on me (for "practice") and it scared the shit out of me, and now I worry he might not be able to have kids. He thinks I should be okay though if I just do "that whenever something like this happens." I bought him a case of beer to make up for it, since I had a little extra money from not having to pay for gas (Tank won't accept gas money.)

I had my interview on Tuesday. Seemed to go okay. They showed me around and one of the senior men deemed me the prettiest girl in all of the county and asked me to be his wife. Hour later, when I was leaving, he forgot he ever met me. :( Poor guy. Hopefully I hear from them soon, cause I would really like that job.

[Fortune Cookie]

Yay for good news. I am hoping for you to get the job. Also, the office girl is right. Tank sounds super awesome, and if YOU don't snatch HIM up, I'll be movigng to wherever and do it myself :)

[Art & Amaretto]

I'm SUPER-MEGA-HULK-SMASH pissed that they let Pet go -- what does it take to get these assholes off the streets?! -- but I'm glad you have an effective plan worked out. Thanks for keeping us posted, I was pretty worried for you. O_O;

And if you feel threatened, after you call the cops just send us a mayday. I'm pretty sure all the RHUers within a half-day radius of your location would gleefully drive out to pummel Pet into jelly.

[CashierBtch]

Make sure the school knows that you (or whoever else is appropriate, like your parents) are the only one allowed to take the child out of the school. And explain to the teacher as well. I think all schools make visitors check in at the main office and if someone is not on that childs list of approved adults, they don't get past that office. My nephews other grandma tried to take him out of school one day when my parents had custody, but since she wasn't one of the approved people, they didn't let her take him, or see him for that matter, and called us right away.

[Sales Agent Guy]

@Cashierbitch - I'm guessing that there's something between the grandmother and your parents that motivated the grandmother to try to take him?

[NumismaticNerd]

I second the hairspray bit. Instinct is to close your eyes, and it will gum your eyes closed so they can't open... Aerosol, not the pump tho

[WMDKitty]

Hey, all they gave me was a no-contact order (that lasted all of 6 months), and they let him loose to do gods-know-what to other women.

It sucks that it takes serious injury or death(s) before an abuser is finally locked away.

[insanecashier]

Hey, any news on the lawsuit? Or can you not say? So pissed that little pinhead got out. Alas, the justice system fails another.

[NC Tony]

It is my most sincere hope that Pet never finds you, but if he does, I also agree with carrying mace (or the hairspray alternative if you can't get mace) to teach him not to fuck with you. I also agree that staying on the heavily populated roads is a better idea than the back roads. Finally, I agree that you should be Mrs. Tank.

[Mollywobbles]

First off, congrats on the cushy-sounding job! The part about it being gated is nice.

Please please please take every precaution you can with the school, you definitely want to keep your babies safe from that monster.

The self-defense classes are a good idea, and I like the hairspray idea. Ever get that shit in your eyes? Stings like a mother. Definitely a good deterrent against a would-be attacker. I really hope that by "out of jail" you mean "he made bail and is only 'free' until the trial", though, because if all those charges against him were dropped, I'd have to walk to my nearest house of "justice" and punch a random judge in the face, and I probably don't even live close by you, Karebear. I'd just be so pissed off if he's getting away scot-free, especially with all of his priors. Glad the old workplace kicked his ass to the curb when he went back there begging for his job back, good to know they've learned their lesson. Good luck with everything, hun! *hugs*

[Mollywobbles]

First off, congrats on the cushy-sounding job! The part about it being gated is nice.

Please please please take every precaution you can with the school, you definitely want to keep your babies safe from that monster.

The self-defense classes are a good idea, and I like the hairspray idea. Ever get that shit in your eyes? Stings like a mother. Definitely a good deterrent against a would-be attacker. I really hope that by "out of jail" you mean "he made bail and is only 'free' until the trial", though, because if all those charges against him were dropped, I'd have to walk to my nearest house of "justice" and punch a random judge in the face, and I probably don't even live close by you, Karebear. I'd just be so pissed off if he's getting away scot-free, especially with all of his priors. Glad the old workplace kicked his ass to the curb when he went back there begging for his job back, good to know they've learned their lesson. Good luck with everything, hun! *hugs*

[ScanGunMonkey]

Keep a lighter with that hairspray, one of the long grilling kind, and then you can roast the fucker's face off. Seconding the Mrs. Tank motion!

[Anonymous]

As someone who has been in an abusive relationship: Right now, you're conditioned to react certain ways to certain behaviors. Until you've been to therapy and are free of those instincts, please don't start a relationship. It can easily become unhealthy just based on your reactions, and how he reacts to those reactions. Once you feel mentally healthy again, I third the notion of asking that man out, if you have feelings for him. You deserve a great guy like him.

[insanecashier]

@ Anonymous, she never was Pet's boyfriend. She is already in a good relationship with Tank.

[Skittles]

@InsaneCashier
It's still good advice to wait to get into a relationship after this kind of trauma as well.