Custy Pulls Up a Chair

 

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[Skittles]

I don't want to judge too harshly it's possible she has a disability. On the other hand if she isn't disabled that is supremely fucking lazy.

[Wmdkitty]

What Skittles said.

But if she's disabled to the point of needing to sit (for a sandwich assembly that takes all of, what, three minutes, tops?) you'd think she'd have a cane or a walker or... something.

I'm leaning towards "lazy", myself.

[L]

Hmm, she looks p*ssed off to me, like she's making a point. "I'm sitting right here until I get what I WANT!"

[Evie]

Oh lord. If you're too tired and fed up to stand in line at the Subway, can't you like... call it in? Or at least write down what you want and then sit down at, I dunno, a table until they finish your sandwich? Maybe I'm thinking about this too much.

[perky]

Well, at least it seems like she might be eating a bit healthier if she is eating at Subways vs. some place like McDonald or BK.

[Mollywobbles]

I agree with perky, this pic could have been open to much more ridicule if she was at McDonald's or something. At least she appears to be making an effort, however miniscule that may be lol

[NC Tony]

For a second there, I thought this was a still from the next episode from that stupid Honey Boo Boo show.

[TechieChick]

She could be disabled.....Why is it OK to ridicule fat people in our society? I was fat, but now I am not and the abuse/ridicule/hatred I felt when fat was bullshit!! So what if she is sitting down? At least she isn't wolfing down 5 Big Macs. Let's cut fat people some slack. It's disingenuous. We are all people, ya know?

[derrr]

Maybe she's just chatting with the sandwich maker. Could be way out of context.

[James]

lets see

Mocking religion = bad
Mocking sexual preference = bad
Mocking gender = bad
Mocking skin color = bad
Fay = Okay

I don't know if she is disabled or not.
She isn't hurting anyone or causing any inconvenience for anyone. Obviously the manager doesnt care.

[Skittles]

@TechieChick
I can tell you why people mock fat people and think it is okay. It all stems from three sources.
1. The obvious one of celebrities who are more and more ridiculously inhumanly fit looking each year.
2. The infomercials that people for some reason believe about loosing tons of weight in 3 months. It probably took you years to put it on it will take you years to take it off.
3. The average person doesn't understand that certain body types will never be fit by the current societal expectation. I believe it is the endomorphic body type I'm talking about.

To clarify my comment a little bit I would consider being so overweight she needed to sit down a disability.

[Humor_Me]

Generally people with disabilities do have assistive devices. Not always, but usually. It does seem odd that she would choose to pull up a chair at the counter. I'm not going to criticize as long as she doesn't hold up the line or cause a scene. Until you get the rest of the store, a picture is worth 1000 words, but the video with sound and thought bubbles is going to be worth about 1 million.

[The Last Archimedean]

At least from that angle, she looks kind of pretty. [Can't see her face, but as long as it's not ugly enough to sink a thousand ships, the overall package is nice!] If I was still unattached I'd [politely] make conversation with her, with the intention of asking her out if our personalities meshed.

Of course, I happen to think that women with actual flesh on their bones are sexy. Give me 1 Mo'Nique over 100 Kate Mosses any day.

[Jami]

She could be like my mom was originally after her back surgery. (Spinal Stenosis & cysts inside her spinal cord.) Not wanting to admit she's disabled, but unable to stand for long periods of time. Even now though she'll walk with a cane, mom will be near tears when I'm pushing her in her wheelchair and I get stuck on something or have to push her uphill.

Usually though she'll tell dad or I what she wants and let us go get it for her while she "saves a table."

And yeah, I'm really sick and tired of the bigotry against fat people. Not all people are fat because they eat too much. Polycystic Ovary Syndrome, allergies, medications, thyroid problems, etc can all lead to weight problems. My mom had a friend who weighed over 400 pounds and could not lose weight no matter what. Lots of doctors told her she was "just lazy." Turned out the real reason was the tumor wrapped around her thyroid.

And mom, being both overweight and disabled - oh, the things people say and do fill me with rage. Make fun of me all you want. I know my weight problem comes from a combo of PCOS, alleriges, and self esteem issues. (And honestly, I'm so used to being bullied that being complimented hurts more now. Telling me I'm pretty is far more likely to make me cry then calling me a "fat ugly c**t.") But my mom is NOT in a wheelchair because she's "fat and lazy." It's because her spine has been majorly operated on. She's lucky to walk at all. You know one time this couple actually threw things at her legs to see if she could move them.

It just makes me sick.

[The Last Archimedean]

Jami, the couple who THREW things at your mom are absolutely disgusting and deserve to suffer the worst torments Zeus can think of for all eternity. What kind of heartless jackass does THAT?!

*shudder* Like I've said elsewhere, I hate people, even though I still have managed to hold out hope for humanity as a whole. Stories like that are why. [I like the RHU community though, we're the 1% of people who actually are kind and compassionate.]

And it's absolutely insane that anyone should be so used to being bullied that compliments hurt. If you lived closer I'd break you of that by repeatedly telling you how awesome you are in all ways, including but not restricted to looks, until you snapped out of it and realized that just because you're not a size 0 doesn't make you ugly.

[perky]

@The Last Archimedean, I wish there were more like you out there. (((hugs)))

[NC Tony]

@ Perky: There are more like him out there... like me. I love BBW women so much I married one!

[The Last Archimedean]

@perky (((hugs)))

We're out there. Actually, I know quite a few males who prefer 1 woman with flesh on her bones and a sweet personality to 100 size-0 women with an "entitled b*tch" personality. "Sweet" does not mean "pushover", it means someone who smiles and says thank you when I do the dishes in her sink and cook for her and pays half the time when we go out to eat.

[Jami]

What can I say, TLA? When it comes to insults to me about my looks, it's like there's calluses on my soul.

I'll confess I can sometimes be angry with my fellow larger ladies, but that's when they do things that perpetuate a stereotype or if I've been clothes shopping and am in a bad mood. (I'm just so tired of the clothing industry. I'm sorry, but larger versions of the skinny girls' clothing is not a good solution. Especially since a lot of the skinny girls clothes are so poorly designed they don't even look all that good in them.) So it irks me when I see them supporting an industry that refuses to acknowledge that we have different shaped bodies and if our clothing was designed better we could look damn good.

[candieaddict]

Yeah it would have gotten attention, but damn who cares? She isn't doing anything wrong. She isn't holding up the line, she isn't causing an attraction. No one seems to be paying her any mind.

The fact that people are so quick to judge that because she's overweight that must be why is sickening. And I'm sure the person who snapped this photo did it for that reason.

Don't judge a book by it's cover, don't judge a photo without actually knowing.

[AJ]

I had to scroll up after reading this post's comments to see if the post had implied anything about her weight... Nope. The only people who mentioned her size are the people getting mad at... all zero people judging this lady for her size.

No matter the size of the person, I'd chuckle a little seeing someone with a chair pulled up. As a (average-to-slender sized, since it apparently matters in this thread) person with physical disabilities that are not always debilitating, there are definitely days when I wish I could do this! I would certainly empathize but still probably laugh to myself later on.

I definitely do need to interject as someone who has physical disabilities and managed to gain 50 lbs in a few months (subsisting almost solely on a diet of Subway oddly enough, since I had a friend who worked there and gave me discounts when I was homeless and trying to save for a deposit) that there is a point where people need to go hey, I'm gaining weight at an unusual pace, maybe I should see the doctor about this. I get that it's hard because a lot of people are ashamed of it an automatically assume its their fault... Which isn't always true, as mentioned in previous comments! A doctor can find out what the root of the weight gain is and help to nip it in the bud as much as possible.

The lady in the picture isn't super large or anything and I don't think people are naturally the same size, but if you are morbidly obese or gain weight rapidly without a major diet change and lack in exercise, something could be wrong. Instead of immediately adopting the "ssbbw" label, if that also applies to men, they should focus on ensuring they are being as reasonably healthy as they can. My grandma had crippling COPD until she lost a chunk of weight she had carried as long as I'd been alive and now in her 70s is healthier than I've ever known her to be.

Sorry for the soapbox, a lot of "larger-than-average" women are healthy, but aside from that I think we need to focus on getting rid of chastising women who become obese and instead trying to make it acceptable for them to ask for help in becoming healthier.

I hope I didn't offend anyone... Although this IS the Internet.

[perky]

@The Last Archimedean and NC Tony Ya'll need to come talk to my hubby then. I've gained about 40lb recently and I'm trying to loose it, but it is hard and ever since I gained it my husband has been giving me the cold shoulder. Which doesn't help.

[The Last Archimedean]

*sigh*

Maybe Karebear can send Tank over with a clue-by-four to reactivate your husband's brain, perky. If a trivial thing like that is enough to make him stop being affectionate, he doesn't truly love you.

My current Gf has dropped 50 pounds since I met her. Is she (slightly) less physically attractive in my eyes? Yes, I prefer women with more flesh. Have I stopped being affectionate? HELL NO, because I love her. I give her just as many hugs and kisses and snuggles as ever because I enjoy being with her and our bedroom sessions are just as frequent and just as fun as ever. If you truly care about someone you won't let trivial things like a minor fluctuation in weight get to you.

Best of luck. Sending you positive thoughts...