A Story Of A Sweet Old Lady, And Another Creepy Hair Fetish Custy

Dear RHU´ers,

Here is Soft Ice Girl again, with two stories.

The first one I merely witnessed, it´s from over the counter, but so, so sweet!

I went to the recreation park where I used to work, and stood in line for admission. While I didn´t have to pay, teeheehee, due to having worked there, I still had to show my employee´s card.

And then I heard loud talking on the cashier window:

Cashier: No, really, I can´t! It´s not right!

Older woman: Have it, child, buy yourself a treat!

Cashier: But I have never got tipped, and it´s much more than the ticket!

Woman: Yeah, well, I got promoted and thought about how to give something back. And you are always so nice. Since I figured that you don´t get tips, I think you should have.

Cashier: No, I...

Woman: Well, I have to go enjoy myself, bye-bye! *grabs her ticket from the counter and runs away giggling*

The cashier just sat there for a moment in awe, then pocketed the 20 Euros (tickets are just 7 or 8 Euros!) and continued selling, a smile on her face.

Since I have worked there, I know that tipping is not against the policy, in fact it never occurs, so there is no policy on it. The salary was ok, but not really Hard Ice Girl, so I guess that these 20 Euros made her day!

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The other story got triggered by a post on RHU about people touching slaves´ hair.

This instantly made my blood boil and I have to get a story about it off my chest, which turned me into Hard Ice Girl.

I have very long, dark hair, it reaches my butt. I always wear it open.

Well, people really like looking at it and touching it, and with friends, I often feel like a my-little-pony-doll (I have nerdy friends :P) with all the braiding and combing and... And since I am not really shy, I cannot remember that I ever refused if a stranger asked nicely if he could touch it, because I get that it looks interesting.

BUT! Never ever should someone touch it without permission, simply because I am not a doll! Even at petting zoos, there are signs to approach the animals face-to-face first so they can go away if they do not like to get touched by you, yet some people think it´s ok!

So, one day, I was tutoring when I felt some gentle tugging on my hair, and as I turn around, there is a guy, touching it.

Hard Ice Girl: Excuse me?!?

Guy: Oh, your hair is so beautiful, and it is soft, too.

Hard Ice Girl *ripping my hair out of his hands*: How dare you touch it? I am not a petting zoo animal!

Guy: Oh, excuse me, I did not think you would mind.

Hard Ice Girl *a bit calmer*: Well, ok, just know that I do mind. If you want to touch somebody, you have to ask first.

I turned around again and continued to explain stuff, as this happens time and again, and I get that people can be oblivious and insensitive without even wanting or realizing it. No big deal.

But then, this stupid asshat took the cake!! About 30 seconds later or so (which means that it was a product of a thought rather than a stupid thing that you blurt out and want to rip out your tongue afterward), the guy says in my direction:

"As you wear them open, I thought you wouldn´t mind."

Hard Ice Girl: What?!?

Guy: Well, it is really beautiful, and if you wear them open, you have to know that everyone wants to touch it.

Hard Ice Girl: So, you mean I´m asking for it?!

Guy: Well, no, not like that, but if you wear it that way, you must anticipate what would happen.

At that point, Hard Ice Girl turned into Frozen Concrete Girl, and in order to prevent myself from beating the living crap out of this waste of oxygen and clean water, I just turned on my heel and marched right out, went to the toilet and cried out of burning anger.

When I got a grip on myself, I returned to the student and apologized for leaving mid-sentence. He said he understood and apparently he had told the asshat-guy to leave.

--Soft Ice Girl

Comments

[(Former) Parking Bitch]

Well I guess we know what this guy's defense would be if he was ever accused of sexually assaulting a woman!

[Mollywobbles]

I just...I don't understand why people think it's okay to touch other people without their permission. Would you approach someone on the street and just touch them? Then why the hell would you do it to someone who's trying to help you? That's just low. Do they maybe think that it's just hair and not another part of your body, so it's okay? GAWD.

Reading these stories just makes me think of all the creepy old men who have to touch my hand/fingers when I hand them their food/coffee/change. I've even resorted to holding the very bottom of the cups, but they still manage it. It's just not right. =(

[Humor_Me]

As someone with a Service Dog who wears patches that say, "PLEASE DON'T PET ME I'M WORKING", I totally sympathize. I really want to smack the living shit out of people who blatantly read her patch, then pet her anyway. Unfortunately, they consider that assault. While it's not AS vital now since my dog is *only* a medical alert dog instead of a mobility dog, I have had people who have mug-hugged my dog nearly dropping me on my ass. I don't like being touched either. How you kept from belting that fucknugget is beyond me. I'm glad you had someone who stood up for you and told that creeper off.

[NC Tony]

I guess people don't realize that touching someone without their permission isn't always going to result in a "Please don't touch me". It might one day result in a "DON'T! FUCKING! TOUCH !ME!" each word punctuated by a fist to the face. Or at the very least an elbow to the face followed by a "Sorry, that tends to happen when people touch me without permission".

[Skittles]

I would feel perfectly fine tapping someone on the shoulder to get their attention but that's as far as manners allow for touching someone you don't know. It kind of blows my mind that there are people out there who think touching someones hair without asking first is okay much less getting upset when they get told off.

[PoetryOtter]

What happened to the concept of personal space? I don't think I'd be able to respond calmly to something like that. And if I were at work and got in trouble for it, I'd raise hell, because no, the customer is not always right.

[JGM1764]

I have a few African American friends who wear their hair au naturel who get the touchers all. the. time. They’ve gotten used to giving perfect strangers a dressing-down for it. My red hair used to be very long. I occasionally had strangers touch it without permission, but it didn’t happen often. But this story reminds me of one that was quite sweet. At my old job we had a client who brought her daughter, a sweet-as-pie teenage girl with Down syndrome, with her into the office. The first time she touched my hair took me by surprise, really just because I didn’t hear them come out of my boss’s office behind me. I was just startled, and her mom said, “Now, now, don’t touch until you ask first.” I said it was ok, and after that when she came in she asked to play with my hair, which I let her do. She happily finger-combed my hair and said, “You look like Ariel!”

[CoG]

Three cheers for the guy you were tutoring! It is NOT COOL to touch another person without permission. I totally feel for pregnant women in these cases. Baby belly or very long hair, just because you admire something does not give you the right to touch it.