HormonalHolly Gets Insulted By Hag and Coworker, Tells Off Both

Hiya,

Well. I've read for a year or two, however, this is my first time posting, since I just got my first job in retail a little over a month ago. In general, I enjoy it. I have good customers, and since I work in a small drugstore, most of the customers are regulars.

I took this job soon after I found I was pregnant, so feel free to call me HormonalHolly, or any variation of this. (Hey, I'm young, but shit happens.) For the most part, everyone at work has been really supportive.

The other night while I was working, however, I was moving our shopping baskets around the store to the various places that we keep them, and I go to put them down by the cosmetics counter, and I hear, "And this one's pregnant too!"

I look up, and a custy is standing there talking to my coworker, who had just felt the need to point out my pregnancy to someone who is obviously looking down upon me. Of course, I questioned her about it, and what had they been talking about?

"Her granddaughter's six months old, and her daughter's already pregnant again," and then they proceed to go into details about how immature I am, and stupid because I didn't wait until i was older to have kids. (Like I meant for this to happen.)

I go on about my business, and then my coworker directs a question at me. "How could you be so stupid? You don't understand what you're getting yourself in to."

Of all the mean, hurtful things that someone could say, this one definitely pissed me off the most. I'm a generally happy person. Really. I smile all the time, but I have a vicious temper. I'm slow to anger, but trust me. You do NOT want to piss me off.

Fighting myself as hard as I could not to explode at them, I responded as politely as possible, "I understand that you may be having problems with your daughter, but you need to understand that not all situations are the same. I have been on my own for the last four years. I found a job when I found out I was pregnant, I moved out of my parent's house, I found myself medical care, I pay my bills, and I buy my own food. Why exactly are you judging me when I'm better off right now than you are? I'm certainly not in the ideal situation, but I'm sure as hell making the best of it rather than sitting around gossiping over people who are in situations that I have no right to talk about."

Yeah, pretty much the rest of my night was ruined, and my boyfriend had to stay up late for me to rant to him when I got home. So, sitting here a few nights later, I find myself fuming once again over judgemental coworkers who feel the need to discuss my life with bitchy custys. 

I'm just very blargh over this whole situation. *twitches*

--HormonalHolly

Comments

[Spritzy]

We're always here with a listening ear, feel free to rant away! You handled yourself very well.

[Sales Agent Guy]

I would consider complaining about what your co-worker said. That was WAY out of line!

[RayvenMoon]

I'm with Sale Agent Guy. Your co-worker was completely out of line.

[The Last Archimedean]

Talk to your boss about having your co-worker's brain replaced with one that works. What they did was highly inappropriate.

[cashierbtch]

bitches be jealous that they aren't having a beautiful baby like you are.

seriously though. what your coworker said is way out of line, and I'd assume some form of harassment. complain to your immediate supervisor,

[NC Tony]

And refer to the 3D's of RHU if this keeps up.

[LaserSpawn]

absolutely go to the manager about this. your co-worker has no right discussing you or anything about you with just any random fucknut that waltzes into your job.

[HormonalHolly]

"Talk to your boss about having your co-worker's brain replaced with one that works." Win. Seriously though, guys. Thanks. I mostly just needed to be reassured that I wasn't the crazy one in this situation.

[Katie]

I'd go with saying your coworker is "creating a hostile work environment". Or at the very least, making it uncomfortable for you to work there...

[HormonalHolly]

It was horrible. I almost cried. But I was too pissed off to show weakness there. I def went red in the face, though. Haha. I was considering saying something to my supervisor, but I don't know what he would be able to do without making working there worse. She has a huge-ass mouth, and if he said anything to her, the whole store would think that I turned her in for nothing. Bleh. djkfhsdkjhf. Bleh. ._.

[photoslave]

If you are afraid of retaliation from your coworker, then go to a district manager/store owner. Though you really shouldn't have to be afraid of that because complaints against coworkers are supposed to be confidential.

[HormonalHolly]

All right, I'm writing out the incidents and sumbitting them to management. Tonight, she refused to cover my break (despite the fact that I'm diabetic and pregnant, and hadn't eaten in 7 hours..) So I had to wait two hours until she *FELT* like covering my break. "Can't you just like, wait!?" I just want there to be something on file for when I finally REALLY tell her off, and she goes crying to our manager.

[Skittles]

That is one of my pet peeves. Regardless of how you feel about someone of whatever age being pregnant, what is the point of harassing them for it? Aside from the fact that you know nothing about the situation, there just isn't any point other to be cruel and insulting. It does sound like you will be a pretty good mom though, congats.

[DearZelda]

I wish I could tell you that people like your coworker are rare, but sadly that's not the case. For some reason, whenever you work with the public, people feel they have some right to comment on your pregnancy (I'm due in 27 days and I work the cash register in a fast food place). If you're young or even look young (I'm 24 and I still get this shit) or if they think you're not married (again, I still get this shit) you're going to hear it from some asshole at some point that you did something wrong. Keep handling yourself like you did in this situation and you'll make it through.