My jaw is still in my lap. How the hell does someone get off on making such a show of themselves, and then to top it off they use their EBT card? I really do wish there was a way to report people like this, or better yet, ban them from stores for miss using it.

Oh for F's sake! Here I am on EBT myself, it took me 5 years to find a job, and I would NEVER consider paying for a wedding cake with foodstamps! (The same way I would never park in a spot for "mothers with children" when the youngest was 8 either.) I have bought birthday cakes with foodstamps (and my son keeps asking me why I don't have it decorated), but not big ones, just big enough for my son and me to share.

When I got married almost 30 years ago, we got a relatively small cake and I believe it was around $65. We weren't expecting that many people because I didn't know that many and my family was poor. I didn't want to make a big deal out of it. I told the cake decorator what I wanted and said, "Do what you want." and I thought it came out great.

That bridezilla needs a good bitch slapping .First of all why is she bitching about the price when:#1 the average wedding cake goes for 9 to 12 dollars a slice and #2the taxpayers are footing the bill.I too have had the distinct displeasure of waiting on bridezillas who are so totally narcissistic it boggles the mind.Just what kind of pussy-whipped wimps are out there marrying these witches?I don't understand the attraction.At all.

Pharmacy_Psycho: I commend you, For using the assiatnace in the way it was meant for it to be used, as a temporary and well managed situation, to be used like real, hard earned income, not a handout that the person feels they deserve to be used flippiantly. I hope things improve for your situation qucikly. Finding work is so hard these days. I've been trying so hard to get out of my meager part-time job... but I've not had any hits. Bah. I'll be thinkin of ya! ^_^

Thanks for the accolades, guys. It feels good coming from the people in the trenches (or on the other side of the counter). I do occasionally splurge and get soda, chips, cookies and such, but most of the food is short-order (meaning I don't have to stand a long time to cook it), low-cost, frozen, canned, or dried food that keeps well. Peanut butter is one of my best friends. Think in terms of a large pot of spaghetti with meat sauce once a week and whatever works around that for the rest of the week. We eat a lot of leftovers. No steak, no lobster, no wedding cakes, and you wouldn't believe what I would do for a Klondike Bar! I'm glad I never took up smoking or drinking or I'd be in serious financial trouble. My teenage son firmly believes there is a cow living in the back of the refrigerator willing to put out 2 gallons of 2% milk per week, and if the cow runs dry, I hear about it. I just wish HE would get a job and help out a bit, but he says he's not cut out for the drudgery of that kind of work... not enough challenge. *sigh* Since I started working I'm down to almost no food stamps now, but my expenses haven't lessened. Now I'm putting out the money to pay for gas to get to work, whereas before I could simply stay home unless I had a dr's appointment. Its all a balancing act and a lot of days I wonder if I'm up to the challenge. Thanks for giving me this site to talk to the people who really understand both sides of the counter.

I don't mean to turn this into a "story of my life" thread, but when my son came to live with me, they actually took away my EBT cash. I couldn't believe it! You'd think with someone using more of my resources, they would have given me more, but oh nooooo. Their excuse... they "divide" my benefits! Gee thanks, Assholes! I nearly had no place to live if I wasn't >this< close to suing my landlord for discrimination because he rented the 2 bedroom upstairs apartment because I was handicapped and "he didn't think I could handle it". I spent 8 months in depressive hell in a 1 bedroom (I had to move out of a studio) while I saved up enough money for a first and security for a 2 bedroom.

Yeah.. people in general usually suck hardcore. I've made a few wedding cakes and I only have one horror story, but yours definitely wins hands down. That's epic, and not even in a good way. I get asked at least once a week if people can use their EBT cards for cakes, I am thankful that I'm not a cashier because the shit people buy with their food stamps that isn't really stuff they need to be buying with them would drive me up the wall.

All in all, I think they need to revamp the system, or make it more like wic checks so you can only get certain kinds of items, such as canned goods, pasta, you know, real food.. take lobsters, t-bones, and most importantly, wedding cakes.. off the list. lol.. but that's just my opinion. ^^;

If it makes you feel any better, the situation is the same here in Canada.
I have no problem with people who need a hand getting one: but there seems to be a big problem in how aid is given out. What about just "topping up" for people who need health/drug/dental insurance and a little extra money for food, instead of making them quit it all and go on welfare to get it? Think of what we'd SAVE, not to mention encouraging people's hard work and rewarding effort, not sloth? We don't have an EBT system, which for us just means the Beer Store and lottery ticket kiosks are lined up around the block on "Cheque Day".
And yes, I know of the process being based on demographic, not need. Gee, I'm white, and I am so heartened to hear how well I'm doing all the time, especially with me living hand-to-mouth! I qualify for nothing here, so I am stuck between a rock and a hard place (like Mel's sister, I'm also a vet with a two year old). Everyone seems to think because I have an education and a white-middle-class background, things are easy. :)
I agree that colour is a descriptor, not a definition!
The retail bitch in me would MOST ASSUREDLY have lost it on the FoodStampTramp and her asshattery when ordering a wedding cake using what I'm sure would be the equivalent of a week's worth of grocery money!
@Pharmacy_Psycho...it's people like you that are the reason not taking to the streets with a torch demanding tax money back. If we have to feed some cheats to help people like you, then it's still worth it.:)