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Regan Fuck youI have a story about a particularly rude customer that you might enjoy. For privacy reasons, just call me LilythKitten.

I work in a grocery store and a lot of our customers are older, more conservative people. I'm used to getting comments and questions about my dyed hair, piercings, and occasionally my tattoos if they show (which they usually don't). It's mostly stuff like, "Did that hurt?" "Why is your hair green?" "Does your lip ring ever get caught on stuff?"

All of these are fairly normal questions and don't really bug me. I laugh them off, making jokes and telling stories about unfortunate run-ins with rims of soda cans and similar objects when I first got my lip pierced, or the time I messed up my hair dye and had to cut six inches off. Most of them just laugh at the stories or pause to think about my answers before moving onto another topic.

I've a few comments like, "You're too pretty to have something like that on your face," or "You'll have trouble finding a boyfriend with green hair like that," but for the most part, even if they don't approve my customers are generally nice about it. I've never had a customer be blatantly rude about it until a few months ago.

A woman and her husband came up to my register one Sunday after church. I give them the standard "Hi, how are you today? Did you find everything you were looking for? " greeting.

The wife responds politely but is giving me weird looks. Finally, she starts what turned out to be a rather unpleasant conversation which went as follows.

Customer: "I'm surprised they let you work around customers with stuff like that." (She gestures to my face and I assume she means my lip ring and hair, which has some green color in the bottom.)

Me: "They changed their policy on things like tattoos, piercings, and hair dye a few years ago since it has become increasingly common. They decided things like that don't affect your ability to do a job."

Customer: "Well, yes but just because something is common that doesn't make it right. Abortion might be legal but it's still murder!"

At this point I am just staring at her in shock. I have been working here for a little over a year and I have never experienced someone being so blatantly rude about my appearance. The worst part was, she didn't seem to realize there was anything wrong with making that comparison!

Bitch Encounters 1My reaction was to just start scanning and bagging her items faster so I could get her away from me. Her husband at this point has noticed how uncomfortable that comment made me and nudges his wife while whispering something to her.

The only thing she could think to say after he pointed out that she had upset me was, "Oh no no no, I didn't mean you were as bad as those people!"

I chose to just nod and smile while ringing them up as fast as I could. I get that not everyone is okay with dying your hair, or piercings, but this lady just took it too far. You don't agree with my choices in hairstyle and piercings so you compare them to abortion?

I told a manager about it later and I swear she was more offended than I was. I was told if that ever happens again to call her or another manager and they will deal with it. I would like to think there's enough common sense and decency in the world to prevent me from ever having to deal with something like that again.

--LilythKitten

 

Comments

BH

This customer was wrong to bring up her anti-abortion stance to the cashier and trashing someone's appearance is very juvenile and stupid!

Lightning

"Why is your hair green?"
Mom was VERY concerned that I eat a lot of greens as a child.

"You're too pretty to have something like that on your face,"
Maybe I don't want to be considered 'pretty'.

"You'll have trouble finding a boyfriend with green hair like that,"
I would never WANT to date a guy, whose main concern is my freaking hair color.

"Well, yes but just because something is common that doesn't make it right. Abortion might be legal but it's still murder!"
*holds hand up* And STOP! I don't care what your opinion on abortion is - even if I consider it dumb - nor should you care what my opinion about it is and this is REALLY not the time to discuss something like that. Let us proceed back to being professional strangers, with the only words still between us being "Here's your receipt; thank you for shopping with us" and "Have a nice day".

"Oh no no no, I didn't mean you were as bad as those people!"
Ma'am. Please. Stop talking. You'll only make things worse.

Only thing I might say about someone's hair, piercings or tatoos are, "Cool! I like the color/design!"

ThiefOfTime1

Kudos for being able to smile through this.
I swear, just reading custy's bullshit let my face drop waaaaaay down.
(Also: Great manager! And I truely hope this was an once-in-a-lifetime encounter)

Neverdie

Wonderful manager, truly. And screw that crusty. Ignorant hag...

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